A week ago, all 5 of us popped into the minivan at 6 am-ish and headed west. We were armed with our electronic devises, pillows, snacks, books, ear buds and were headed to see our family in Missouri and Oklahoma for ten days!
The next morning waking up in my brother’s fabulous new home, I exclaimed, “It’s great to wake up and all I’ve got to do today is FUN!”
Just fun and enjoying family. Love, love, love! Do you know that sweet, vacay relief?
Interestingly, I’ve discovered that I’ve become almost addicted to that rush, like a junkie needing more fun, better experiences to top the last. Pushing to hear more laughter and more exclamations of “awesome” and more lifelong memory-making.
I just might be addicted to fun. Am I crazy?
Fun is definitely fun. And, we are to love the abundant life (John 10:10). It’s true that God provides everything for our enjoyment (1 Timothy 6:17). But, there is an ever slight line between fun as an enjoyment and fun as a sole purpose in life, like a finish line for each day. I find myself pressing this FUNNESS into my kids as I set our schedule with: “how much FUN can we cram into one day?”
Krispy Kreme for breakfast- check
Pool for 4 hours with a picnic lunch- check
Movie with popcorn in the afternoon to recoup – check
Grill out burgers with their favorite dessert- check
Family bike ride as the sun goes down- check
What am I teaching my KIDS about life and living when I get all wrapped up and focused and addicted to fun? Am I unknowingly threading these beliefs into their little psyches:
“I am entitled to a fun day with happy feelings and YOU are responsible to make it happen for me.”
When I act as the social, fun-time, summer coordinator, they begin to depend on someone beyond themselves to regulate their emotions. That’s a lot of pressure and a distraction from the source of true joy, Jesus.
“I’ve gotta have fun to be happy.”
Life is not always fun. There are hurts and sicknesses and tragedies and disappointments and unmet expectations. Constant fun is not a reality. Happiness is an inside job and is not the result of a perfect, fun day! The truest, most settled contentment comes from knowing and accepting God’s grace through Jesus.
“It’s gotta be fun to be a worthwhile task.”
In real life, is every day full of fun? Do we have the freedom to not go to work or not to potty train our almost 3-year-old or not to do yard work when it’s 100 degrees outside with 100% humidity? Fun cannot be our qualifier to do something or not. The worthwhile things in life are found in obedience to what God calls us to do: love, patience, self-control.
For me to live is Christ. Philippians 1:21
The truth that is running cold, cleansing water over my try-hard, push-everything-into-one-day, keep-the-spirits-high CAN DO-ness says that
truly the most fun, enjoyable living
How does this apply in true parenting-summer-survival? Don’t quite know yet, but I’m working on it. Little things to ponder in the small, quiet, dimmed places of my heart.