White knuckles. Refusing to let go. Holding tightly and clinging for dear life. Even when the relationship was no longer right, best, or even healthy, I held my dream of marriage tighter than the actual reality of the relationship. I was holding on so tightly that I forgot what I was holding to in the first place.
A flood of questions pelted my heart:
But if I let go, what will I have?
If I let go, all the time invested will be wasted.
If I let go, I will have to start over.
If I let go, I will be alone– maybe forever.
If I let go, who will I be?
So, I closed my eyes shutting out the red flags and legitimate concerns and squeezed.
Have you been there like me?
Finding the love of your life involves intentional decisions (even hard, painful ones) that positions you in a place for a healthy relationship.
1. Stop looking.
Lastly, we land on:
Keep a loose hold. If you hold too tightly, you are too close to see things in healthy perspective.
Keep a loose hold. If you hold too tightly, it gives no room for you each to grow, evaluating along the way if you really are a good fit for each other.
Keep a loose hold. If you hold too tightly, you become more focused on your grip than on what you are holding.
Keep a loose hold. If you hold too tightly, you may grow more needy and high maintenance because you don’t want to let go.
It is so hard. Especially as time progresses and the relationship continues to develop. I know. But, I finally learned to do something daily that kept me holding loosely.
Every morning, I would talk to God and say something like this…
Making wise decisions as I gathered information.
Staying in reality as I resisted the natural urge to fantasize and daydream.
Guarding my heart by protecting those things most intimate.
And, keeping a loose hold by letting it go into the hands of my loving Father.
And, with 15 years of marriage in our history, I share my days with the love of my life. I am so grateful.
I pray you too will follow God’s purpose and plan for your life, dear friend. It will blow you away!
See you February 24-28 for our next 5 Ways in 5 Days!
On Tuesday February 4, we dive into our ugly attitudes and learn how to unstick them!
every Tuesday and Thursday…