Day 30: Surviving Life when Bad Things Happen

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All my guys walking out of church. Happily ever after. The next morning, our oldest was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. Survival Mode.

Mistaken Identity #10:  By what has happened in my life, I am what I am.

Once upon a time… 

there lived a small town girl.  One day, a nice family moved to her hometown.  And they had 2 cute sons.

Within the first year, their father died tragically and she watched them grieve with bravery and strength. Eventually, she fell in love with the younger son and they married.  This was her storybook life. This was her happily ever after.

They were married for 10 years but could not have any children. Suddenly, her husband died. Within that same year, her brother-in-law died. She felt she had been punched in the gut and her world was spinning.

Despite the unfortunate events of her life, her sweet, gentle, trusting attitude in God still shone through.  In order to help her mother-in-law, she moved with her to a new town. She found a job and did what she needed to do.

As it so happened, the company she worked for had a very respected, unmarried boss. He was a generous and wise. He liked her. She liked him. They got married.

Her longing for a child was still strong. This time, she got pregnant and they had a son. Happily ever after…errr…what does that mean anyway?

Do you know who she is? RUTH (Story taken from Ruth 1-4, one of my favorite books).

How about you? Have you ever been holding your happily ever after then…

cancer hits

or a tragic car accident

or infertility

or diabetes

or an unexpected death

or a rebellious child

or you have to move…

and your happily ever after is snatched out of your hands?

How do you survive life when bad things happens? We can learn from Ruth:

1.  Don’t vacate. You will never be the same but keep living life. Resist being distracted and wallowing in the unfairness of things! Focus THIS DAY on what you need to do. 

Ruth didn’t sit and wallow in her desperate situation.  She went to work. It was hard. But she did what she had to do.

2. Believe that God is working even when there is no happily ever after in sight.

You never know how God is working. He could be preparing something right now for you.

3.  Live each day knowing that you can’t see everything and you don’t know everything. God is bigger

Often we can only see what’s happening the moment. But God sees all of your life. And has a great plan for you, even through the heartache and loss. On a sidenote, the man Ruth married was Boaz (the prostitute Rahab’s son). Their son was Obed who was great-grandfather of David through who Jesus Christ came (Ruth 4:17, 21-22, Matthew 1:5-16)!

4.  Realize that He may have a different happily ever after than what you dreamed of. 

He uses pain and hardships to sift you down to who you need to be. Trust Him in the heartache.

I am not what has happened to me. By the grace of God, I am what I am.

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4 thoughts on “Day 30: Surviving Life when Bad Things Happen

  1. Thank you for this. After 15 yrs of marriage I left an abusive relationship. I thought my “happily ever after” was always just right around the corner. I am learning a new life trusting God in ways I never dreamed. I did feel my “happily ever after” was snatched from me. Deep down I know what you said is true. God is always working. Wonderful to be reminded of this today!

    1. Cassy, thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry u weren’t treated as u truly are- so precious and valuable. It takes such bravery and strength to leave. I cheer you on! Then begins the rebuilding of who you truly are. The truth of who u are is found in what God says about you. It takes work and time. But you can do it. Praying for ur journey…
      Any Ruth

    2. Cassy, thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry u weren’t treated as u truly are- so precious and valuable. It takes such bravery and strength to leave. I cheer you on! Then begins the rebuilding. The truth is in what God says about you. It takes work and time. But you can do it. Praying for ur journey…
      Amy Ruth

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